I turned 25 on Sunday! Ever since I can remember I’ve wanted to be 25. It has always seemed like such a cool age to me! You’re a young adult who is finding their way in the world but you probably have a better sense of direction than you did in previous years. I think this is a good way to describe where I am in my life right now.
I had a great time on Sunday and I spent the day with family reminiscing about my life and what I have learned so far. Here are some of those lessons:
1. The sooner you stop caring what others think of you, the sooner you can start living your life fully.
2. It’s okay to ask for help.
3. Don’t be afraid to admit that you made a mistake.
4. Embrace the fact that you’re still learning, and you always will be. Life is about constant change and adaptation. No one has all of life figured out and that’s great!
5. The only actions you need to be concerned about are your own. Worrying about why someone has or hasn’t done something is only going to bring you more stress and discomfort, so don’t do it!
6. Learn to question limiting thoughts and beliefs about yourself. I’ve learned to really pay attention to my thoughts. Every time I have a negative thought about myself I ask why I think that. Usually, I come to find that it stems from some long held belief that I no longer agree with or was never true to begin with.
7. Forgive, but never forget. Forgive a person so that you can move on and heal, but learn from the experience so that you don’t make the same mistake twice.
8. If you’re not happy in a situation, leave it. That feeling is your intuition telling you that your energy is better spent elsewhere. And if you can’t leave, find a way to make it enjoyable for yourself. Life is so precious and we need to spend the majority if not all of it doing things that we love.
9. Know your worth and don’t allow others to define it for you.
10. Take risks! Do things that you’re unsure of—even just to say that you did it.
11. Do things you enjoy without the need to be “good” at it or make money from it! As a recovering overachiever, this one is hard for me, but I’m working on it.
12. When thinking about the future, try and think about all of the ways that things can go right instead wrong. Even if things do go wrong, at least you won’t have willingly put yourself through the stress of it twice.
13. Learn from your past without dwelling in it.
14. True power is the ability to build others up when they are down. It is not about control or manipulation.
15. Being kind and letting people walk all over you are two very different things and it is important to know the difference.
16. Learn to say “no” and mean it. People who really care for you will want you to set healthy boundaries for yourself and will be okay when you do.
17. Allow yourself to celebrate other people’s success, talent, achievements, beauty, etc without tearing yourself down in the process.
18. Be honest and true to yourself always.
19. Give others the benefit of the doubt. Everyone is dealing with their own struggles and trauma and sometimes it can be hard just to make it through the day.
20. Seek to understand, not to be understood.
21. Learn to replace your fear with curiosity.
22. Stay focused on what you want to happen and not what you don’t want.
23. Know that obstacles can be opportunities in disguise.
24. Don’t fight for what isn’t yours. Many things will be moved out of your life for various reasons and it’s important to be able to let them go so that your true good can find it’s way to you.
25. In life, don’t procrastinate like I just did. Because coming up with 25 life lessons in one sitting is really hard. Just saying.
Thanks for reading and always,